The Social Me (QUESTION THREE)

Why is it difficult not to care about what others think of you? Do we control the way other people see and think about us?

Why is it difficult not to care about what others think of you? Do we control the way other people see And think about us?

People care about what others think, It is extremely hard to hold one’s image nowadays, but it is still important for almost all people to be recognized and whatever they are or are not categorized. Humans are naturally social, and want to talk to other beings, discuss things with them, and feel comfortable with others. That being said, there are people who don’t really care what others think of them, but they do need attention to an extent. Everyone needs attention; it’s just the degree of attention that differs from person to person. Some people feel that they need attention 24/7, and others just need something as simple as a hello from a friend. If anyone was dropped off on a desert island, they would go crazy eventually because there would be no one there to listen to them, talk to them, and comfort them, except maybe inanimate objects. On the other hand, they would have no one to question them or make fun of them for the things they do.
Another reason one might worry about what other people think is the influence they have on others. If you have a negative appearance, people will think badly of you, and cast you down and make fun of you. No one might want to talk to you, let you sit by him or her, or even deny you as a human being. No one wants to be fun of, so there is always this constant fear that if you say something wrong or something that some may find “stupid”, you restrain from saying it, in fear that you will be ridiculed or made fun of. Humans are very critical beings, and as a result ideas are withdrawn, and fear is always a factor in everyday life.
Now on the subject if we control it or not, it really depends. All people have a their own personal reflection on you based on what they see you do, say, act, and your interests. All of these definitely let people classify you into what “group” they think you seem fit to be in. Now some people are more critical or more “mean” than others, but they still use attributes you have to reach their conclusion. They might make fun of you, no matter what you do to them or what you do to change. They will still be able to make fun of you. This is an example where you cannot help what people think of you. Now, this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Mothers and fathers normally have unconditional love for their children, and love them no matter what they get into, what they like, they still categorize them as their “special” son or daughter. For the most part, we do have some control over what others think, due to our attributes. You can change little things, like not looking as mean or ferocious by holding a door open for someone or using good manners, but most of your main attributes will still be noticed, whether that is a good thing or not.
In conclusion, there are many ways one might be afraid of what people think. It could result in negative emotions from one’s peers, or wanting to be recognized as a human being and having the same rights. We do to a degree control what others think of see and think of us, but a big part is how the observer views it in their own perspective.